Seeing Her in Dreamland

The last touch was like a gift. The last touch was a gift indeed, a drop of passion from somewhere in the heart, a goodbye that left more than the first hello.

Where do the memories stay when the future has no place to go? Where does one go where they were the one to leave and walk away in the first place?

Someone who desire can walk the ground on the other side of the world, and through the powers of the future, you can still reside among each other's hearts.

I miss her kindness. 

No one would ever guess she was a prostitute.

Right and Wrong: Is Casual Sex Moral or Immoral?

I have been doing that exercise where you spend 15 minutes a day writing...writing about anything really. I have been writing this blog for about a week now after the 4 year hiatus, and overall, it has felt nice to get back to it. I was glad to come back to an abandoned blog and find that one of the posts from the archive has over 14,000 views....I am sure some of that is spam and computer bots, but there are some comments there, so that gives me the feeling that someone has actually read it, and I have at least been able to share something with the world.

Today has been a crazy day in my personal life. All kinds of possibilities, ideas, and emotions going up and down across the spectrum.

It has also made me question some things. I used to be a strong advocate that casual sex was not only moral, but in simple terms honest. Honesty through sexuality. If you deny your sexual feelings, it is not being honest with yourself, and it is difficult to progress as a human being when you are not honest with yourself. Moreover, it is very natural and human to seek out a sexual partner...not to mention society encourages it.

Is there anything immoral about casual sex? Well, I would say that there is a lot of potential for things to go wrong. Even still, in my heart I want to say that casual sex is not immoral. It is one of those issues where you want to find two people that want the same thing, and if both parties are fair and honest, it can be done without projecting destruction into the world. I guess you've met the young Hindu side of me. Karma. Dharma and Hari Ohm.

However, I guess I also want to be realistic, and I can totally understand why so many people...religious and secular advocate that casual sex is something bad and should not be performed by anyone. It sends you down a slippery slope.

For starters, there are often highs and lows associated with seeking many sexual partners. It can lead to intense uplifting emotional reactions and destructive and crashing ones as well.

Then, what happens when you have to seek out multiple partners. A lot of people will get offended and insulted at even the attempt of having sex with them. This can lead to both physical and emotional conflict.

Not to mention if a casual relationship occurs, one person might also want the relationship to continue into something more serious and long-lasting. If the other party does not agree, it can lead to genuine heartbreak. Let's be real. Even people who seek out casual sex partners also have feelings and also enjoy having a certain person in their life....someone can even make them  grow out of it.

There are so many challenges in life. When does one ever choose the right pathway? I am still a believer in right and wrong, and that there is a form of goodness in the world. I would hope that people can have casual sex in a way that will only share kindness, joy, pleasure, passion, physicality, emotions, and of course orgasmic discharges (winning).

The real answer is...of course casual sex can be performed in a moral way. One of the more pressing issues associated with this is...if someone does not participate in sexual activity, voluntary or involuntary...they do not deserve to be ridiculed or insulted. There are enough problems in the world, and we don't need more people anchoring us down with destruction. Casual sex might have some ambiguous associations when it comes to morality.

But it is most certainly immoral to bring destruction into the world by making fun of someone for not having sex. As a male who has survive the teen years and early 20's, I will tell you that there are many people, both men and women that resort to insulting people for not being sexually active. This type of thinking is barbaric and has no place in the 21st Century.

Let's just try our best to share feelings of optimism, positivity, kindness, fairness, and experience.
Be honest. Sometimes direct and sometimes indirect. Create energy without destruction and share a message of passion with the world. Share love in ways that you could only imagine when you first see the magic in someone else's eyes.

Until then.....Let love live onward.

Going to Mexico and Canada for Sex

I think this photo is from a YouTube Channel. After writing this, I'll check it out.

Yesterday, I got an invitation to go to Mexico to meet someone from a dating site. It could be something nice, and right now, there is nothing going on in America, so perhaps in about 3 weeks or a month I might take a trip down to Mexico to spend a week with her.

It blows my mind though that I could be spending all that money just to fly for a booty call. I mean, she seems like a nice person, but we haven't talked in like 4 months. I sent her a message, and she replied in about 5 hours and gave me the invitation.

Sure, I would like there to be more romantic chemistry, and as men, we need to always value and honor the woman's humanity. Just sometimes it is a little hard when she does not want to talk very frequently or in depth. She is still mostly pleasant whenever I can get her to say something.

The other option that I could do is return to Canada. One of the most guarded secrets of the world is that Canada has legalized private prostitution. This means that it is legal to exchange sex for money, but it is not legal to procure on a street corner or run a brothel. I interpret this to mean that escorts are acceptable, but streetwalkers are not. I learned about this first hand in 2013, and that has been the last time I have visited Canada. I spent the night in Montreal and had two escorts...one at night and one in the morning.

If I were going to do a trip like that to Canada, I would be faced with more expenses for sure. I can only imagine that if I were going to be getting a Canadian escort, it would be around 200 dollars an hour, but if I were going to Mexico, I would be paying more for the flight.

Also, I do not know the exact stipulations of going to Mexico. I could go to Mexico, but what if she does not have time to see me every day? That would be an enormous set back and could cost me an enormous amount of time and money.

I would be paying more to go to Canada, but we are talking about a lot more.

In other news, I have never been to Mexico, and I am quite curious about visiting there. I have never been to a Spanish speaking country, and I would like to see more. It could be a good experience all the same.

But if we are going to talk about prostitution, Mexico has full on legal prostitution as far as I know....so my degree at Wikipedia University taught me.

The real reason why I am so torn is I want to go out and meet someone new...professional or genuine, but in reality, it would be ideal if I could just meet someone here. I am not quite in the mood for giving up yet. However, if only this girl in Mexico had her visa to the United States....I could just fly her up here for a week. That would be the best thing to do.

Well, I have just had an idea for my next dating site search....but I won't rule out going to Mexico City...if we keep talking, and there is a display of chemistry I will honor her humanity and view it as a chance to have a nice romantic endeavor together.

Vaya con Dios!

African Women in China: Sex with a Girl from Malawi

I did a recent post...only finishing it moments ago...on dating African women, but like many writers and caffeine induced bloggers, I felt I did not do my best work. One of the reasons I started this blog was to share direct and honest stories about sexual encounters in an anonymous fashion, so that we could say that absolute 100% truth.

So there is another post on this blog about some of the cultural things you will experience when dating African women, but for now, I will just tell you about having sex with a girl from Malawi.

Malawi is a small landlocked nation in Southern Africa. Someone asked me where she was from. I said Malawi. He said "What is that?"

In China, the city of Guangzhou is famous for its African district, which has received the nickname "Chocolate City." While in Guangzhou one night, my friend had met a girl on the train, and they had exchanged contact information. We were both invited to her hotel room. The one who invited us was South African. She had a friend "her sistah" from Malawi. They spoke together in the Xhosa language, pronounced "Koh-sa."

The girl I went for was pretty good looking. If you first saw her, you might think she was a tad large, but overall, she had a very flat stomach. She had big breasts that would have turned you on, and she had a super shapely ass. I know many people think that his obvious for African girls, but I have noticed that many from East Africa...Kenyans, Ugandans, Ethiopians, and Eritreans...even Sudanese and Chadians do not always have the traditional bootylicious curves.

Now, we were four people in a hotel room, and I started getting frisky with the Malawian girl. The problem about four people in a hotel room is, if I want to do something physical with my date. Where do I send the other two? The South African was being very difficult, and my friend was having some trouble, but my girl was ready to go.....well, after a lot A LOT of teasing. She was being a rotten tease to be honest.

This is not her. Just Similar.

The only suitable answer was for the Malawian girl and I to do it in the shower. We weren't going to force our friends to leave, and it was easier for us to go into the shower than for our friends to wait for us in it......so we undressed and began the foreplay.

I couldn't comfortable during the blowjob while standing up, so I just sat down on the toilet. My friend later informed me that he could see the silhouette of the whole thing. I don't mind someone watching me get a blowjob...but on the toilet : / .

It took ages for me to get hard because as John Oliver warned us...not many people enjoy shower sex. I have had at least one good experience in the shower that was done well, but this was not one of them.

Finally, after I had my manhood ready, I bent this girl over the sink. I had been with a black girl before, but it never ceases to amaze me how you can just shove your dick inside all the way, and they don't even blink. I am used to Asian girls who can only handle the tip. I am just slamming her upright doggy style, and she isn't making a sound. I bet she wished she could read a magazine or play on her phone minus the shower steam.

After a few minutes of exploring the cavern ( :o) she made a suggestion.
"Want me to wash you?" She said.
I made a big mistake and said "ok."
I wasn't entirely sure what she meant, but she filled a bucket with soap and water and had me sit on the toilet once again. Yay...bad time to be king of the throne.

She proceeded to give me a handjob with soap and water, and for awhile it felt really good...but this is something that I have yet to master. As a teenager, I learned that masturbating with shampoo is useless. Someone once told me it would inflame your dick. I tried many times as I had no lube when I was 15, but the issue is that it just doesn't allow you to climax. You either can't feel it. It's too cold, or at the very least it agitates you, so you can't enjoy it. Agitate and inflame are two different things to me.

So she is just jerking away with her soapy water, and it is starting to feel not so good. The altitude was starting to fall. I am sitting on a toilet, after getting a blowjob on a toilet, and doing it on the sink, and desperately trying to cum.

I did not cum :( :/ :0  :X
All I can say is I will never try using soapy water as a lubricant again. It was her idea not mine.

Overall, the girl from Malawi was a great performer, minus the bubblebath. It was just that in the shower, it can be difficult to get the positions right, and as I mentioned something about black girl vaginas. V: 

I am so horny now. I want to fly to Malawi and try this again. Maybe I can find a girl that will let me do it in the river...probably more enjoyable that on the toilet and over a sink.

Questions:
Anyone else have any good black girl sex stories?
Please share in the comment section below. 

African Women: Do You Like to Be Dominated?

It is very difficult to generalize about the entirety of a continent. Furthermore, it is even more difficult to generalize about a continent, but only talk about the side that's below the Sahara Desert, yet at the same time I find myself encountering the same patterns and behaviors from black African women from Senegal all the way to South Africa.

I am always reminded that culture is real. If you spend time talking to many people from the same country you can almost predict their responses down to the individual words. I had two Latina girlfriends. They both broke up with me, and they used almost the same dialogue. One was from Chile and one was from Mexcio, yet it was almost the culture ran deep.

The same is true for African women, and once again to specify, when applying that term this post will center around Black African women from the African continent. Although, I will mention something about African heritage around the world at the end of the post, so stay tuned....ha, and by tuned, I mean engaged...please excuse me I drank like 4 diet cokes and a diet Mountain Dew before writing, so I am higher than a hornet.

African women are dominant. I notice this more so than from any other social or racial group. I find that Russian women are manipulative. Chinese women are submissive at first. Then, later on they become chaotic. Latinas are either hot tempered and jealous like fire, or like my two ex-girlfriends cold as ice and indifferent to the well-being of anyone else and all living things on the planet Earth.

After conducting between 1 - 2,000 interviews with Africans for graduate research, I encountered many instances of a simple interview turning into something romantic, and by reaching age 30, I had encountered several outside romantic (or just sexual) encounters with African women from various countries across the continent.

African culture pushes African women to be manipulative, but there is no subtlety that some other cultures might possess. I often always notice that when an African woman first begins to converse with you, she often makes an insulting or demeaning remark. Then, based on your response she is judging how much she can manipulate you.

If you are passive, she will walk all over you, try to make you send her money or buy her things if you are together in person. She will also perhaps insult your appearance and demand you change to her specifications.

If you respond in a hostile way, she will tell you to calm down and relax and then just try to be more indirect with her manipulations until the time is right, and she will become more blunt with her demands.

A man from Cameroon once told me, in my country the woman will always want to control the man, but she is not always able to do so. I have to agree.

Other characteristics I have noticed in African dating is that a woman will demand to be addressed in a certain way; she might demand that use a certain title or expression to greet her. Moreover, she will try to become very pushy with her demands for the future.

On the internet African women talk very frequently about marriage. Within minutes or even seconds of knowing someone, an African woman can bring up the possibility of marriage with someone outside of their continent.

Some of these are genuine 419 Scammers, but others are just individuals who are living a fantasy life, and are using dating sites to pass the time (a constant among women in the non-Western world). I say that it is a fantasy because it is almost impossible for foreigners to visit a small city in the center of the D.R. Congo or even Northeastern Nigeria. It is just not feasible, but we can't always take everything on the internet as serious or genuine material.

From my experience the relationships with African women are strongly centered on control. She is just looking for more ways to gain power in the relationship and become more dominant, and I mean dominant in the literal sense. The woman enjoys giving demands and orders, and has very high expectations that they will all be met. If you do not comply, she will either throw a temper tantrum or try to explain that you do not understand her culture, and you must obey to respect her (another constant from the non-Western world).

The part I wanted to mention at the end was that if culture is real these African similarities can be found in individuals all around the world. This is anecdotal, but I knew three woman from different countries. England. America, and the Congo. The woman from England was of Grenadian decent, and the American had parents from Nigeria. All three of them had the same body type, and they had almost identical personalities. If the accents and languages had been the same, you would have no idea that you were dealing with a different person.....and yes, they were all trying to be dominant and manipulative...not sure how well they succeeded, as none of them could ever hold down a long term Adult relationship.

This is why I would say that culture is real, and as my ex-girlfriend from Haiti told me. All blacks are Africans. I am not convinced I agree with 100% (Hi Barack), yet African culture has made its way into many African American and African European circles whether it is the popularity of dance or even music such as jazz...not to mention Nelson Mandela.

In a relationship with an African woman, expect someone trying to dominate you.