African Women: Do You Like to Be Dominated?

It is very difficult to generalize about the entirety of a continent. Furthermore, it is even more difficult to generalize about a continent, but only talk about the side that's below the Sahara Desert, yet at the same time I find myself encountering the same patterns and behaviors from black African women from Senegal all the way to South Africa.

I am always reminded that culture is real. If you spend time talking to many people from the same country you can almost predict their responses down to the individual words. I had two Latina girlfriends. They both broke up with me, and they used almost the same dialogue. One was from Chile and one was from Mexcio, yet it was almost the culture ran deep.

The same is true for African women, and once again to specify, when applying that term this post will center around Black African women from the African continent. Although, I will mention something about African heritage around the world at the end of the post, so stay tuned....ha, and by tuned, I mean engaged...please excuse me I drank like 4 diet cokes and a diet Mountain Dew before writing, so I am higher than a hornet.

African women are dominant. I notice this more so than from any other social or racial group. I find that Russian women are manipulative. Chinese women are submissive at first. Then, later on they become chaotic. Latinas are either hot tempered and jealous like fire, or like my two ex-girlfriends cold as ice and indifferent to the well-being of anyone else and all living things on the planet Earth.

After conducting between 1 - 2,000 interviews with Africans for graduate research, I encountered many instances of a simple interview turning into something romantic, and by reaching age 30, I had encountered several outside romantic (or just sexual) encounters with African women from various countries across the continent.

African culture pushes African women to be manipulative, but there is no subtlety that some other cultures might possess. I often always notice that when an African woman first begins to converse with you, she often makes an insulting or demeaning remark. Then, based on your response she is judging how much she can manipulate you.

If you are passive, she will walk all over you, try to make you send her money or buy her things if you are together in person. She will also perhaps insult your appearance and demand you change to her specifications.

If you respond in a hostile way, she will tell you to calm down and relax and then just try to be more indirect with her manipulations until the time is right, and she will become more blunt with her demands.

A man from Cameroon once told me, in my country the woman will always want to control the man, but she is not always able to do so. I have to agree.

Other characteristics I have noticed in African dating is that a woman will demand to be addressed in a certain way; she might demand that use a certain title or expression to greet her. Moreover, she will try to become very pushy with her demands for the future.

On the internet African women talk very frequently about marriage. Within minutes or even seconds of knowing someone, an African woman can bring up the possibility of marriage with someone outside of their continent.

Some of these are genuine 419 Scammers, but others are just individuals who are living a fantasy life, and are using dating sites to pass the time (a constant among women in the non-Western world). I say that it is a fantasy because it is almost impossible for foreigners to visit a small city in the center of the D.R. Congo or even Northeastern Nigeria. It is just not feasible, but we can't always take everything on the internet as serious or genuine material.

From my experience the relationships with African women are strongly centered on control. She is just looking for more ways to gain power in the relationship and become more dominant, and I mean dominant in the literal sense. The woman enjoys giving demands and orders, and has very high expectations that they will all be met. If you do not comply, she will either throw a temper tantrum or try to explain that you do not understand her culture, and you must obey to respect her (another constant from the non-Western world).

The part I wanted to mention at the end was that if culture is real these African similarities can be found in individuals all around the world. This is anecdotal, but I knew three woman from different countries. England. America, and the Congo. The woman from England was of Grenadian decent, and the American had parents from Nigeria. All three of them had the same body type, and they had almost identical personalities. If the accents and languages had been the same, you would have no idea that you were dealing with a different person.....and yes, they were all trying to be dominant and manipulative...not sure how well they succeeded, as none of them could ever hold down a long term Adult relationship.

This is why I would say that culture is real, and as my ex-girlfriend from Haiti told me. All blacks are Africans. I am not convinced I agree with 100% (Hi Barack), yet African culture has made its way into many African American and African European circles whether it is the popularity of dance or even music such as jazz...not to mention Nelson Mandela.

In a relationship with an African woman, expect someone trying to dominate you.