How do you attract women to you? : How do you get women to have sex with you?

Seduction

How do you attract women to you? (For straight men anyway)
Stay with this post to the end, and I will reveal a secret.
There are many different approaches to dating, but do you ever find that no matter what you do, you always end up with the same result, that women always give you the same reaction, no matter what.

I had two roommates recently. One of them (from England) would attract women with ease, and would get them into bed with ease. It was almost as if he had some ability to make women feel comfortable, and make them in the mood for the bedroom.

We nicknamed my other roommate (from Iran) the marriage magnet. He was 36, older than both us, so that is maybe one reason why girls looked to him for marriage, but it was almost as if there was something else there. No matter what girl he was talking to, whether he met her on a dating site or met her face to face within a matter of hours the girls would be asking him about marriage, sometimes even proposing.

As for me, my pick up skills became rusty, and they just said nothing at all.

With my English roommate, I began to notice that there are certain vibes that we, as men, emit and give off to the world. Women perceive us in different ways. I asked my ex-girlfriend about him, and she explained that girls see him as a guy that is suitable for one night stands. Perhaps, it is his personality, or perhaps, it is the way in which he converses with women, but he gives off the impression that he is the kind of person suitable for quick sexual encounters.

With my Iranian roommate, there must be something as well that gives women the impression that he is suitable for marriage. He does not flaunt money around. We are all working class types, but women aren't attracted to money. They are attracted to success.

So how can you give off the vibe to make women desire you in the way that you want?

As I said my pick up game became rusty, so I had to think back over the years and look at all the times that I had success at picking up. The most sucessful years of my life were at age 23 and age 28.
At age 23, I was just so horny that I couldn't resist. It blew my mind that I literally spent all day every day on dating sites. I didn't do anything else, and I didn't want to do anything else, and I connected with a lot of different women in America.

At age 28, I was living in China, and I had just become more outgoing. Furthermore, I was approaching women by the hundreds, not only on the internet, but also at parties, met one in a night club, dating apps like Tinder and TanTan.

The secret I would like to share is...if you want to attract more women for sex, stop thinking. That's right. Stop paying attention. Just send off countless messages on dating sites. Send them quickly and do not think twice. I found that women respond much more frequently to the messages that I send off without a lot of emotion. Of course, always be constructive, never too lewd, and never unnecessarily destructive. You will just obliterate your chances if you start sending dick pics without warning.

But send your messages on rapid fire, and do not pay too much attention. Look at a girl's photo and give her a genuine compliment. Then, just keep going until you've reached your limit of likes, swipes, votes, and messages. Maybe women are attracted to the animal savage types. When you first start out, it is just about acquiring contacts anyway. You can develop your relationship with someone over time, but how can you do that if you never meet in the first place?

So after I write this blog post, I am going to go out and send 100 messages online.
I hope you do the same.
Be frank. Be genuine. Be strong.

5 Strategies on How to Get Laid or Get a GF

Over the last few months I have noticed that there are lot of videos on YouTube now that are talking about how nice guys can change their behavior to get a girl. The channel I referenced in the last post was Essential Truth, which has cut up a lot of the Jordan Peterson lectures into segments on mostly men and women, which are loosely connected to dating.  This post will include a video from Mantelligence.

I wish I had more videos like this when I was younger. I remember being 18,19, and 20 years old and having no clue on how to even initiate the attempt of getting laid or getting girlfriend.

To begin, I will preface this by saying the motivations for posts like these are only to help and to share previous experiences I had. I found that when I was a late teen and early 20 something there was no place to turn. Friends were useless when it came to advice because they did not understand dating and hooking up themselves. Looking to the internet was also useless because as soon as I asked a question on anything I was shot down and ridiculed by trolls for not knowing the answer in the first place. The chaotic years of the early New Millennium.

That gives us the reason on why I wanted to write a variety of posts on this subject. Let's first look at what not to do...Then, next let's look at what to do.

What Not to Do When Dating (for straight men anyway :p) :

1. Do Not Ask Women for Advice:
It is true. Women have a good sense of how other women think, yet they have no idea on how men think. They always try to reduce men down to one-dimensional entities. They say cheap remarks like guys only care about one thing, but most of their hook ups have probably resulted from them being horny and getting on Tinder. Men pursue women, and women aren't paying attention while men pursue them. Every suggestion I have ever had from a woman on dating has been useless. It's just small lines like "Be nice, but don't be too nice." and if  you ask "Well, how exactly should I do that?" They will just stop the conversation because once again they don't understand what they are doing. They just do it. It's just Math professor being forced to explain simple addition and subtraction.

2. Do Not Ask Men for Advice:
Overwhelmingly, I found that men always say the same thing. "Be confident." That is the only real thing guys say as a form of advice. The problem is that is not a strategy that you can apply. It is not a thesis that can put into action. It is not something that can be tested.

In short, your friends are not going to be much help unless they give you clear and direct strategies, which is very rare, and asking for help on the internet via forums and chat groups is not always welcome.

So what do you do?

What to Do When Trying to get Laid or Find a Girlfriend:

1. Decide what you want.
I once asked someone if they could introduce me to a girl. The guy said he had many single friends, so why not? Then, he asked me "Well, what do you want?" I said I did not care. Anything is fine....that was the wrong answer. If I did not care, my plan had no ambition.

More importantly, you cannot invest your heart and soul into a single person. It is what you want, NOT who you want. No matter how hard you try, you cannot always convince a certain individual to be with you.

Make a clear objective.....Do you want a relationship? Long term or short term? Do you want a something leading to marriage? Do you want a friend with benefits? Do you want to just get laid with multiple partners on a regular basis? Do you want travel sex?
Choose one thing and make that your objective. It is not who you want. It is what you want. You can control what you want.

2. Frequency.
Want to know the name of a good dating site? ............Well, I won't say one. It doesn't matter which site you use because you need multiple dating platforms. Use at least 4-5 dating sites simultaneously to find what you want. No matter how good a dating site is and no matter how much your friend recommends it, you will have better odds of getting what you want if you are using 5 different dating platforms instead of one. This is the 21st Century. Let's network.

3. Tell yourself. You are not nice.
If you are reading this post, firstly thank you for your interest in this blog. Secondly, you probably are not nice. The video talks about nice guy mistakes, but people often confuse nice with agreeableness. I have to thank Dr. Jordan Peterson for pointing that out. If you are on the internet looking for strategies for getting laid, you probably are not that nice. You care about sex. Sometimes you use women. Sometimes you neglect her feelings and put yourself first....Hey, nobody is perfect. I am not.

Be less agreeable. This is easy on dating sites and text messages as there is no real life pressure. Do not let someone tell you what to do. Do not let someone boss you around if you do not like it. Do things your way. If someone says something that you do not like, say something. Agreeableness will most likely be viewed as weakness by a woman.

4. Network at Community Events (For Americans)
I am American, and almost the only ways I can meet regular partners is from community events. When I am in Asia it is all about the dating sites and the internet. In America it is about community events. I do not know what else to call them...but...not at work, not at school. When women are at work or going to class, they almost seem to be in a state of unease. For starters, there are other students or co-workers there that could judge her if they found out that you were having sex with her. This is greatly reduced at any social activity that is not related to work or a class.
I met one ex-girlfriend at a community club. One at a party. Two from a community theatre, the same one. and so on....Things like organizations, parties, volunteer work, social engagement, community activities. I find people are very relaxed when it is not work or school.

5. Get Ready for Trouble
If you are going to be using five different dating sites, and you are going to be approaching women at various events in your communities, get ready for negative comments, backlash, trolls, people trying to bring you down, other people trying to steal your thunder, and just straight up jerks who will be jealous if they see you talking to women.

They are wrong. Always know that. If your intention is only to meet a woman and have a good time with her (as well as her having a good time with you) other people are wrong to interrupt you. You are in the right. I confess I am not sure the best way to deal with trolls in face to face situations. On any online platform, I suggest blocking them immediately.
Be strong. Do not let anyone trying to hurt you get you down.

Good Luck and Go for the Gold.

Thank you for reading my list of 5 internet stratgies on getting laid.
If you have any feedback or comments, please drop one in the box below.
I am always interested in expanding these types of discussions and maybe we can all share
stories that have helped us in the past.

How to Meet Asian Women for Sex

In the previous post, I mentioned that I had been toying with the idea of writing a book on sex in China. I also mentioned that I am severely scatterbrained. Thus, in only a short while I have decided that there was another project that I thought I should begin first.

There is a YouTube channel called Essential Truth that has taken a lot of the old Jordan Peterson lectures from the University of Toronto(as well as other venues he has appeared at) and cut them up into a set of segments that are designed to educate men on how to deal with women...such as the one included in this post.

I confess, I have not watched them all, as there are so many, but I feel there is still something lacking in the video clips I have seen.
----To begin, as far as I know, Jordan Peterson does not teach guys how to get laid. Most of what he advises is on how to find a long term partner for marriage or at least long term relations. If I recall correctly, he has even stated that men who go to bars looking to get laid...and don't care which woman they go home with...are psychopaths.

On the one hand, I commend Essential Truth for providing some advice for men. I know I sure would have liked it when I had been 18,19, or 20.

Now, let's talk about Asian women. Let's not beat around the bush. How does a guy get laid? And how to approach Asian women.

Let's seperate Asian women into two groups.
1= Girls Native to East Asia           2 = Girls of East Asian Decent Living in Other Countries

With Group 1=

1) Forget About Confidence.
I am so sick of all these dating self-help people talking about confidence. It is almost as if they know no other words with three syllables. Even Beavis and Butthead are confident with their "Hey Baby," lines. It doesn't mean anything. Confidence will not get you laid. Furthermore, in Asia all of those cultural perceptions are different. You can believe that you are a God, and it will not necessarily get you laid. Asian girls are much more moody and self-interested than the stereotypes show. It's not about how you feel. It is about how they feel.

2) Smoothness and Rapport 
The Platinum Guide to Dating....a now defunct web book..used to state that dating, hooking up, and seduction consists of a three part method. 1/3 Confidence . 1/3 Smoothness. 1/3 Building a Rapport with your target.  We have already covered confidence and how that is not the answer, but Smoothness and Building a Rapport are good ideas for all people, no matter where they come from. Get rid of the awkward behavior. Be aware of your facial expressions and your body language. Say things that make her gently laugh, but do not appear too silly or blunt. Be smooth. Talk smoothly and try to create some sexual energy with her.

AND LAST but NOT LEAST

3) Numbers
What these Essential Truth videos do not tell you is dating is mostly about numbers. As a late teen and early 20 something. I remember many times sitting at home wondering why I couldn't find a date for the weekend...well, maybe it was because I wasn't asking anyone out.

The law of averages applies to dating. The more people you approach. The more success you will have. While in America or Europe, it might be very awkward to approach strangers and ask for their contact information. It is not really that weird in Asia. Many times if you just say Hello to a girl in an East Asian country and ask for her contact info, she might even give it to you just because she does not want to offend you...or more likely she doesn't want to appear awkward or look bad herself.  I would hesitate trying this in Hong Kong or Macau as the natives there are quite standoffish. If you are approaching Filipinas or Indonesians in HK or Macau. Go for it.

When I first arrived in Beijing, I was advised from a blogpost similar to this one that dating in China was like.....say Hi, how are you? to 100 people. Get 50 replies. Converse with 20. Meet up with 3. Sleep with 1. Repeat.

I don't calculate my own messages that rigorously, but it is the same idea. In Asia, you have to use the numbers to your advantage. It does not matter what you say. It does not matter what you wear (although, cologne might help. Smell is important). It does not matter what you have in your bank account. It is about asking 30-40 people to come over to your apartment every single night, and yes, every single night. So if you invite 200-250 people to your apartment or hotel room every week, there is usually going to be at least 1-3 horny Asian girls that will come over. No guarantee, but from previous experience first hand and knowing guys that do this too, it is real. I know one guy who spends 4-5 hours every day talking to girls, getting new contacts and inviting people over. 4-5 hours every day, and he gets laid more than I do.....Time, Effort, Hard Work, Numbers.

Other sites to meet Asian girls:
Tantan, Tinder, Badoo, Fdating.com, DateinAsia.com, and Wechat People Nearby.
So Numbers, Numbers, Numbers. Use the internet and approach people on the street to build an enormous amount of contacts. Then, send out 200-250 invites a week to come and meet you. It doesn't even have to be in your apartment or hotel for the first time. You can invite them for a drink first or out to dinner....the important part is that you send you build your contacts and send out invites.

2= How to Date Asian Girls in North America and Europe.....
1. Have a Big Dick
2. Have a lot of Money
3. Spend it on them
4. Who really cares? If you want to have sex with Asian women...spend the summer in Asia: Philippines, Thailand, Indonesia, maybe South China or Vietnam and use your free time wisely, and you should get laid.

Prostitution in China: A New Book in the Works

This blog has been gathering dust. A big shout out to anyone who has read it over the years.
About four years ago, I created this thing to anonymously share experiences...because I thought it would be something interesting. The last thing I wrote before this long hiatus was to talk about prostitution and the law.

I have spent almost five years in China now, so if we are going to be writing what we know, let's talk about Prositution in China...over the last few months, I've toyed with writing a book about prostitution in China. I get about 3 new ideas for books every single week, and maybe only 4 of them have ever turned into anything substantial. One of the largest reasons why I get held back is because I do not often write books...I am not a professional writer. Most of the work I have circulating around the internet is on the blogospehre. My writing isn't perfect. In fact, a lot of it is horseshit...but still there are some experiences to share all the same.

That brings us to this next point. As early as 2015, I began to wonder why prostitution is not more widely discussed in China. Nations like Thailand are notorious for sex tourism and have earned an international reputation for prostitution. I was wondering why it was not the case with China. Prostitution is widely practiced, very easily available, and it can even be low cost.

Over the years, I've started to learn the Chinese language...by that I mean Mandarin. My Cantonese is non-existent, and I began to keep in contact with a lot of my regular prostitutes. By that I mean, I am also including massage girls, anyone who gets a little bit kinky. Not only is prostitution widely available in China, but social media is much larger in the western world. People do not seem as afraid of adding someone to their page.

I am toying with the idea of releasing a series of blog posts on Prostitution in China. Since it would be in blog format, and I am a very scatterbrained individual, it might work more easily than in a traditionally published book-style presentation.

Even as early as tomorrow, perhaps I can compose a small chapter 1.
However, one of the motivations behind a project like this is not only to tell people some dirty secrets, and it is not only to recommend places where guys can secure contacts for personal use. Believe it or not, there is almost a sense of academic value...at least in intention with covering a subject like this.

If we are going to learn about China and about Asia, we can not censor ourselves. We need to present all sides of the equation. It would not be fair to dig deep when talking about Thailand, but leave things on the surface when it comes to China.

Look out for more updates on Prostitution in China.
06/28/2018